Because there's more to life than one's self, status or material things.
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''Everything can be taken from a [person] but one thing; the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances.''
''The way in which a man accepts his fate and all the suffering it entails, the way in which he takes up his cross, gives him ample opportunity — even under the most difficult circumstances — to add a deeper meaning to his life.'' - Holocaust Surviror Victor Frankl
''A life without purpose is a life without meaning. A life without meaning is a life without hope.'' - Nick Vujicic: No Limbs, No Worries, No Limits
Affluenza, n. ''a painful, contagious, socially transmitted condition of overload, debt, anxiety and waste resulting from the dogged pursuit of more.'' - John de Graaf
Affluenza, n. 1. ''The bloated, sluggish and unfulfilled feeling that results from efforts to keep up with the Joneses.'' 2. ''An epidemic of stress, overwork, waste and indebtedness caused by the American Dream.'' 3. ''An unsustainable addiction to economic growth.'' - PBS
''It ruins people, who need a lot more down time than they get. It ruins families, who increasingly prefer plugging in to interacting. It ruins communities as neighborhoods turn into barred, deadbolted, wary populations of strangers. And it ruins the environment as the earth is trashed to meet the excessive demands of...consumers.''
''The cure for affluenza thus begins - like all good cures - with rest. What people need is not more money, but more time; not more expensive stuff, but more meaningful contact with one another.'' - John de Graaf, David Wann, Thomas H. Naylor
''With every period of exhaustion comes a corresponding period of depression which goes to our weakest point at that time.'' - Drs. Ron and Nancy Rockey
''When you don't feel good about yourself you make wrong choices in terms of relationships, in terms of the jobs you settle for. You make wrong choices at every turn. And when you make a wrong choice, what then happens is it breeds a sense of being a victim.'' - Francine Ward
''The missing component with most self-help information products is, unfortunately, they...offer no automatic way to change the limiting patterns, which you run daily, that have been giving you your disappointing results. The greatest information in the world can't help you unless you're exposed to it repeatedly.'' - Think Right Now!
''If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.'' - Mother Teresa
''Tolerance is just a makeshift, suitable for an overcrowded and overheated planet. It carries on when love gives out, and love generally gives out as soon as we move away from our home and our friends.'' - E. M. Forster
Resilience is created by community connectedness. ''Information by itself does not change people. It takes a community.'' - The Circle of Courage Project (inspired by traditional Native American methods of raising youth - focuses on belonging, mastery, independence and generosity)
''The most daring thing is to create stable communities in which the terrible disease of loneliness can be cured.'' - Kurt Vonnegut
''We are living art, created to hang on, stand up, forbear, continue and encourage others.'' – Maya Angelou
What In Life Has You Feeling Discouraged?
Been having a bad day?
Suffering and / or dying from injury, cancer, AIDS or some other illness? Unable to afford medical insurance, pay medical bills?
Grieving the death and / or loss of a loved one to cancer or some other illness, an accident or addiction, murder, divorce, breakup or some other cause?
Suffering or recovering from a divorce, breakup, phobia, mental illness, addiction, affluenza, status anxiety?
Lost your home, your job in the credit - foreclosure crisis?
Lost your shirt, your retirement fund, in the stock market crisis, on the new Black Monday / Black Tuesday?
Lost everything you had in the wake of Hurricane Katrina, the Tsunami or some other natural disaster, a fire or in some other way?
Feeling pain, guilt and / or shame from physical, sexual, emotional, religious or self abuse?
Feeling frustrated and discouraged from having trouble dealing with temptation, withdrawal or triggers while in recovery?
...with the lack of caring and concern from family, friends, coworkers, fellow church members and / or authorities?
...from getting the runaround?
Hurting inside from the pain of a broken heart?
Feeling devastated, alone and lonely and / or unloved, ignored, betrayed?
...stressed out, overwhelmed, inadequate?
...helpless and hopeless, worried about the future?
Getting fed up with life? Has it lost meaning or purpose? Feel like you've lost your way?
Feel like Humpty Dumpty? That your life has shattered and you can't put the pieces back together again?
Words That May or May Not Help
Hi. I'm awfully sorry you're feeling discouraged or hopeless. For whatever reason you're feeling that way, I sincerely hope you'll find words of encouragement and hope here because you deserve them. No matter what anyone says, including yourself, you're of infinite value and significance and deserve peace, happiness and meaning in your life.
If you have thoughts, feelings and behaviors which have kept you bound in fear, anger, sadness, or feelings of worthlessness, these words probably won't give you the encouragement or hope you're looking for.
You certainly may read them, in case they will. skip
''Humor is another of the soul's weapons in the fight for self-preservation. It is well known that humor more than anything else in the human makeup, can afford an aloofness and an ability to rise above any situation, even if only for a few seconds.'' - Holocaust Survivor Viktor Frankl
No matter what your age or situation is, if you're teachable, your stressed-out, unsatisfying or shattered life is fixable!
But those aren't the only reasons you'll want to get your life fixed. Stress created by developmental conditions, inequality, bad habits, trauma and suppressed and toxic emotions is dangerous to our, our children's and our grandchildren's health.
''If you do not give to yourself, you will always hold others at emotional gunpoint.'' - David White
''If we do not know our familial history, we are most likely to repeat it.'' - John Bradshaw
''It is true that we do not or cannot change what we do not know about ourselves. And we cannot alter history. But because the human brain is plastic and changeable, we are repairable.'' - Drs. Ron and Nancy Rockey
Why not commit to processing and recovering from those emotions and learning how to build healthy relationships, if not for yourself or even your children or your sibling's or friend's children, if you are or will be helping to raise them, why not do it for your or your friend's grandchildren?
Are you yearning for a better life? Then I encourage you to check out the spiritual or biblical section below. But if the secular section is more your style, or even if it isn't, I highly recommend getting the book by Dr. David Burns, ''Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy - The Clinically Proven Drug-free Treatment for [Mild] Depression[, Discouragement and Unhappiness].'' (cognitive behavioral therapy and how to apply it)
(''The ten forms of cognitive distortion cause many, if not all, of your depressed states...When you become familiar with these ten forms of distortion, you will benefit from this knowledge all your life.'' - Dr. David Burns in ''Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy'')
Another book I encourage you to also check out is real horse whisperer Monty Roberts' book ''Horse Sense for People: Using the Gentle Wisdom of Join-Up to Enrich Our Relationships at Home and at Work'' in which he ''demonstrates how trust, respect and communication - not coercion - are the keys to fruitful relationships.''
In raising his three children and 47 foster children, most of whom came to him as troubled teens, Monty applied and taught them principles he learned from the natural behavior and language of wild horses and his gentle Join-Up technique.
''Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him.'' - Epictetus, Phrygian Philosopher
''Life is not holding a good hand; Life is playing a poor hand well.'' - Danish Proverb
''Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.'' - Confucius
''Fall seven times, stand up eight.'' - Japanese Proverb
''A well-developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your steps as you walk the tightrope of life.'' - William Arthur Ward
''If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.'' - Mother Teresa
Resilience is created by community connectedness. ''Information by itself does not change people. It takes a community.'' - The Circle of Courage Project (''Inspired by traditional Native American methods of raising youth, the Circle of Courage focuses on four areas - belonging, mastery, independence and generosity.'')
''Greatness is not found in possessions, power, position, or prestige. It is discovered in goodness, humility, service, and character.'' - William Arthur Ward
''We are so often caught up in our destination that we forget to appreciate the journey, especially the goodness of the people we meet on the way. Appreciation is a wonderful feeling; don't overlook it.'' - Author Unknown
''Make it a habit to tell people thank you. To express your appreciation, sincerely and without the expectation of anything in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you'll soon find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you'll find that you have more of it.'' - Ralph Marston
''Three keys to more abundant living: caring about others, daring for others, sharing with others.'' - William Arthur Ward
(But we can't love others, nor care for others without overdoing it and burning out, unless we love ourselves - not in a conceited or narcissistic way, in a healthy way.)
Inspiring & Uplifting Stories (includes the stories of Azim and Ples and their journey from murder to forgiveness, Jacob Favela, who was saved through music from hate and a life of crime, the Hoyts, a father who races with and for his quadriplegic son and Nick Vujicic, a motivational speaker born without arms or legs)
Biblical Words of Encouragement That May or May Not Help
If you believe God exists, aren't angry at Him and think of Him in a positive way, or want to, or want to learn about Him and how much He loves you and cares about you, here are some quotes from the Bible and a favorite writer of mine that I hope will give you the encouragement and hope you're looking for and a new outlook on life.
If you are angry at God, think of Him in a negative way or have thoughts, feelings and behaviors which have kept you bound in fear, anger, sadness, or feelings of worthlessness, as I said earlier, these words probably won't give you much, if any, encouragement or hope.
Again, you certainly may read them, in case they will, but if they don't, don't worry. Remember, there's still hope! If you're teachable, your stressed-out, unsatisfying or shattered life is fixable! How? With one of the following.
Effective Biblical Solutions
The one I especially recommend is either the ''Binding the Wounds'' or ''The Journey'' seminar by Drs. Ron and Nancy Rockey. skip
If you have a negative view of God, the Bible and Christianity, you're probably saying to yourself, ''How can the Bible help me recover, when it has caused so much misery in this world?''
Or ''Why would God care whether I recover or not, when he's vengeful and tyrannical, making people burn in Hell for eternity (Does the Bible say that? The Twisted Message About Hell Untangled), letting children and babies die or deal with lifelong complications from hunger or abuse, and allowing so many people to die in the Holocaust, the tsunami and other natural disasters, the Hutu/Tutsi massacre, the AIDS epidemic and other diseases, and so many wars and terrorist attacks like 9/11?''
If you are, you're not alone. Many others have asked such questions, and gotten frustrated with people's answers which have failed to satisfy their longing for healing and happiness, and for an accepting, forgiving and caring God.
But through research-based, Bible-supported therapy, careful, prayerful study of the previous list of resources on the good news of God's character, and love, support, forgiveness, prayer, perseverance and determination, satisfying answers to tough questions about God can be found and the cycle of dysfunctional behavior can be broken!
The Rockeys' research-based, Bible-supported recovery program really can allow your emotional wounds to heal, and make your life happy, satisfying and meaningful. You have nothing to lose. Why not take a minute to learn more?
Polly's Place Network (dedicated to providing consultation, education, resources, evaluation and research in domestic violence, family violence, related abuse and teen pregnancy)
The Bridge To Recovery (a retreat in Bowling Green, Kentucky based on the 12-step program, which I believe is not as effective as the Rockeys' research-based, Bible-supported program)
Advent Home Youth Services (a child care agency in Calhoun, Tennessee that provides remedial schooling, lifestyle changes and total wellness for at-risk boys and their families and works to reverse ADHD in a safe, minimum distraction environment)
Words of Encouragement & Hope from the Bible & A Favorite Author
To get a greater benefit from this part of my site, now, for the rest of your life and for the next life, I earnestly encourage you to read, listen to and apply the contents of as many of the sections in the following list as you can make time for.
I truly believe that if you do, you'll find most, if not all of the answers you're looking for and the encouragement, hope, healing, peace of mind, meaning and happiness you desire. skip